Tantra is merely enjoying life to the fullest without boundaries. It is living in the here and now so as to experience the full spectrum of energy that arises when things happen.
It is keeping the mind empty of past and future occurrences and the flood of alternate resolutions and realities that accompany them so that we may load our psyche with the full spectrum of the present and in there so doing fully experience the beauty that is here and now.
Tantric Massage is merely an application of Tantra. Using the principles behind Tantra to perform an actual full body massage on an individual. My rendition thereof combines classic Swedish Massage techniques with Reflexology on the entire body including the penis and other erogenous zones.
The goal of Gay Tantra however is "getting your rocks off" on a mental, spiritual and oftimes physical level AT THE SAME TIME!!
To truly become proficient at this, one must practice, practice, and practice!!!
As a scheduled massage session evolves, the client ALWAYS has the free will to tell the therapist how he wants the session to proceed. The therapist does not coerce the client into doing anything against his will.